Sometimes its okay to admit defeat
Gucci’s a pretty awesome dog. We’ve been really stoked to have him around and to watch him explore and grow and learn. But when Jason arrived on the 30th we discovered that Gucci also has some aggression/fear issues. Namely that he’s afraid of tall/big men, which can cause him to nip.
I’m sure that we could have channeled our inner Cesar and attempted to deal with his behaviour. But it would have taken us months and even then we might not have been successful. Given that we put in the effort (and time and money) to rescue him from Thailand, the last thing I wanted was to end up having to have him put down because he bites people.
I recognized that this wasn’t a problem I could make better on my own. And I recognized that it wasn’t something that I could try to wait out – I don’t want this behaviour to escalate.
So I called an expert. We had our first in home lesson today. Already there’s a glimmer of hope. He’s still very scared of Jason, but he wasn’t growling at him and he even came to him.
We have a hard road ahead of us with homework and repetition and consistency, but the end result will be a happier dog and a happier relationship. We’ll check in with the trainer in two weeks to see how everything is going. And as long as we keep up with our end of the deal, they’ll help us help him.
Sometimes its okay to admit defeat. We can’t solve every problem. Its important to be able to recognize those situations. And its important to admit it. To say it aloud. To ask for help.
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So awesome! Gucci is a lucky doggo!
I don’t think you’re admitting defeat, you’re just taking the first step towards a happy and less fearful doggo.
I recommend a book called The Cautious Canine. It’s just a short book but I’ve found it very helpful with my little one. It taught me to identify *exactly* what my dog was afraid of (for example, maybe not specifically tall men, but tall men who approach the dog in a certain way or tall men who get within 5 feet of the dog) and the steps to take to make these situations less fearful.
Good luck! You’re an awesome doggo momma.
Good on you! I’ve read a lot of good reviews of a book called “Bringing Light to Shadow”. I haven’t seen it myself so I’m not sure if it would help you or not, but it might be worth checking out.